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I last saw my son on the steps of the magistrates court at about 18 months old. You may know that the beggar tracked me down at the age of 30ish. I now have a lovely eight year old grandson and here's the rub.

I'm convinced by his mannerisms and chatter that he is very short on the self confidence rations. I'm sure, because I was very much like him at that age and it wasn't very nice. Anyone know of a 'Janet and John' book to help explain what self confidence is and how to succeed in overcoming this problem?

It made my life a hard chore (along with a couple of other hindrances) and anything I can do to help I would be most grateful.

Over to you chums.T: Cheers, Tony.:ILU:
 

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Good he tracked you down mate , I've not saw my two kids for over a year now and hope they try and find me when the poison from their mother wears off...
As for the self confidence , I dunno of a book maybe he just needs to get out more a socialise with people ... Join a club ... Or even get a t4 and experience life :)
 

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It concerned me too with my lad - but giving him some room to make his own mistakes, let him make some decisions about stuff we'd normally just sort out, encouraging him with stuff like guitar lessons etc seems to have helped. I've reigned my neck in when there's a problem too - trying to listen instead of going off on one.

Good luck, I know where you're coming from:ILU:
 

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One factor is that he's an only child and there aint no siblings on the horizon. Your circumstances sound very similar to mine mudyf0x. Shortly after tracking me down he invited me and the memsahib to his wedding. We crept in, saw the ceremony and slunk out when the dirty deed had been done. Later he told me that meant a lot to him. Things like that give you a warm feeling, or is it heartburn.H:

I'll keep my fingers crossed for you mudyf0x.

Cheers, Tony.
 

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Evening..

I've not been in the same situation, but my daughter lacked confidence until I bought her a book..
Its probably a bit old for the little man as my girl was 16 at the time.
It's "The confidence to be yourself" by Dr Brian Roet.
Its probably not much help for a young'un but my daughter now takes zero from anyone and is always bouncy no matter what the situation.

Good luck mate T:
 

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Any help gratefully recieved. Cheers and thanks mini-t4.T:

Cheers, Tony.
 

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Just had a preview on the web and I agree it may be a bit too 'advanced' for him (but it may be spot on for me)! ;)

Cheers, Tony.
 

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Do a grandad/grandson activity together?

Something you both enjoy then you tick lots of boxes for want of a better expression.

Quality time together
Bonding
Good memories
Life experience/skills from a figure he respects

AND

If you choose a suitable activity it will also boost his self confidence.

Maybe something like an indoor climbing centre if he really doesn't like other people/socialising at this point in time. Work your way up to team/people events when his confidence grows maybe?

Whatever you do, enjoy and wish you all the best in it chapT:
 

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I think I miss read your first post bud... Is it your son that has the low confidence or your grandson?

If it's the wee man how about joining a footie team or judo , kickboxing etc

I firmly believe that children should experience a very social environment, the key to confidence is to mix with other people and not give a dam what they think of you.
 

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Grandson and he lives quite a way away (and the bridge tolls aren't cheap any more). Dad works shifts and his Mam adds to the family coffers by dog sitting and walking, so time is of the essence.:)

Cheers all, Tony.
 
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